Hey Amanna – where ya’ been?
I know, I know – it’s been a while since I’ve posted anything. For those of you that read this blog on a regular basis, you know that my wife and I separated a few months back. Well – we’ve worked a lot of things out and she has moved back in.
I’m happy and proud of both of us. Relationships can be hard, especially for two people as stubborn as us. Marriage is yet another step above relationships for some reason. Anyone that tries to tell you that marriage is just a piece of paper and doesn’t change anything – don’t believe them. It might not change everything, but it is definitely different than just dating or even living together. We worked hard over the last month resolving issues, having uncomfortable discussions, being honest with each other – and now I think we have a better relationship and marriage than probably we ever have.
So now that we’re back together, we’re spending much more time together. Over the last year or so, as things got worse and worse in our marriage, we both had time sinks that we used to be away from the other. WoW was my main one. Now that we are back together, not only do I want to spend more time with my wife, I also am working through how much I really want to play, if – GASP! – I want to play at all.
Two things: for one, my wife equates this game with the “bad times”. Times where I would spend entire weekend evenings up in my computer room playing. Yes, yes, she spent the entire night watching TV, but there is a very bad taste in her mouth when it come to WoW that lingers. But also, I find my interest in playing waning a bit. I could just be in another slump or it could be the start of looking for a new challenge. I historically have a very short attention span when it comes to computer games, and this is the longest I’ve played any game. I still love the game, but the fact that it just never ends and all you get with each expansion and each patch is just some different artwork, different animations and the need to always get just one more piece of armor to raise that stat just a couple more points. As we all know, it never seems to end and I may be questioning whether I want to stay on that treadmill.
I also came to grips with some life priorities. Something both my wife and I re-affirmed as part of our process getting back together is that we need to be priority #1 in each other’s mind. Sure, I’d love it if I married a computer gaming nut, but I didn’t. So instead of getting all upset about it, I’ve accepted it, moved on, and need to put our marriage’s priorities ahead of my playing this computer game. That doesn’t mean I can play games and have fun – it just has to be kept in perspective. In return, she’s done the same when it comes to me. Sounds simple, but it’s surprising how many people don’t approach relationships this way. It really makes things so simple in a way.
So, I’m going to be doing a lot of reflecting over the next few weeks as to whether I want to keep playing this game or not. At some point I may have a heart to heart with my wife also on the subject. As a level 70 character currently working on Karazhan, I don’t feel that just playing a 1/2 hour or so everyonce in a while would be satisfying, so if I continue I am definitely looking to get some decent playtime for myself. However, if I could get a couple nights a week that I could raid, then that might be enough. Sure, I’d progress more slowly, but I’d be having fun and I’d still have my marriage. 😉
So, that’s where I’ve been. I’ve been pleased to see that the blog is still getting over 1,000 hits a day, even without a post the last two weeks. It looks like my annotated Kara attunement post is keeping the traffice up. Anyway, kind of a personal post, but this is good life news and I wanted to share it with you all